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Spring has certainly sprung and
naturally many of our minds turn to
love! All that wonderful energy of
growth, fertility and movement should
really get us motivated to move out of our
crusty winter slumber and into the green
expansiveness of the season.
Spring energy is one for new
beginnings, rejuvenation and growth.
Did you know that more animal babies
(including humans) are born in the spring
months than any other time? That most
plants come out of hibernation and utilise
comparatively more energy to grow faster
than at any other time? So, if you wish to
move towards what you want faster and
more easily, hop on this wave of energy and
now's the time to do it!
One thing I always notice around this
time of year is an increase in people who
wish to attract a partner. Although this may
or may not be true generally, it's certainly
true for my practice. But perhaps it's just
our old mating instinct or all that lovely
warm weather that makes us wake up again
and want someone to share our lives with.
I am always very happy when people
say a true "yes" to the Universe and choose
to attract someone for a love relationship
again, particularly when they have had
negative past experiences. This is an
exciting time and one that I love to see
unfold. Saying "yes" to the Universe always
leads us towards where we want to go,
but often the problem is some of us don't
actually give this affirmation even though
we think we do.
Let me explain and give you an example
Sally* is an attractive 40 plus mother
Remember that old expression 'Faint heart never won fair lady'? Stacey Demarco suggests
it works for us women as well and, above all, we need to be clear and bold in our intention.
of two who has been divorced from her
husband for close to four years now. The
marriage was great at first, with Sally
believing she had found her soulmate. Over
time, though, the relationship became
more volatile and Sally and her husband
became fighters rather than lovers. The
divorce itself was quite long and protracted
with battles over the assets and the children.
After what she described as "two years
of heaven and nine of hell", she now felt
another relationship was what she needed.
" I think it is time for someone new and
I have been putting the vibes out I guess,"
"To be honest though I just don't know
how I am ever going to meet anyone. I'm
running on empty...I have nothing to give.
After looking after my kids and working
a full time job just to cover us financially,
I have very little left. I just don't feel like
I want to go out and meet anyone, even
though I really do want someone special in
And then there's Kirsten*.
Kirsten is just about to turn 30. She
is someone who has her career set, has
bought an apartment and has good friends.
It is the love department that seems to be
her Achilles heel. Kirsten has had a string
of relationships that have lasted no more
than six months at best. The last one was
particularly disappointing for her as they
were talking about moving in together
when things began to fall apart.
"I am so unlucky in love," says Kirsten.
I thought my last relationship was going
to go the whole way -- marriage, kids, the
whole thing. But we broke up. Worse, he
is now with someone else I hear. He has
moved on and is happy, but I don't have
anyone and I am just longing for someone!
I ask the Universe for my match and nothing
happens. I feel so bad that no one is asking
me out who I like and now I don't think
there is anyone out there who will want
me."Both of these wonderful women felt
they had said, "yes" to a new relationship,
yet it was not coming to them. They both
seemed to be giving out a lot of energy
towards their intention. Certainly a lot of
emotion was being generated, but...and it
is a big but...what kind of emotion?
When we send an intention out to the
Universe with the pure energy of desire,
the Universe conspires for us. It can't help
it! An uninterrupted stream of YES energy
is super attractive. After all, one of the
oldest metaphysical laws is "Like attracts
like". Asking and asking and asking with a
pure positive set of emotions creates a flow
of energy so powerful that we actually get
drawn towards what we want and desire.
But when we mix that energy of desire with
the energy of fear, or obstacle energy, we
hold ourselves back from what we want.
So how are these two women mixing
Let's go back to Sally. Sally says that
she is very ready for someone, but at the
same time, she "doesn't know how she is
going to meet anyone". Additionally, she
has decided not to participate in that she
doesn't (or won't) make time to socialise.
Sally is asking for someone (the energy
of desire) but also sending out fearful
energy by worrying that she doesn't know
how to go about it. By not making time
for herself, and that time could just be
one small block of time per week doing
something she enjoys, she again activates a
stagnant energy, effectively blocking, or at
least slowing, her attraction energy towards
her desire for a partner.
Karen is certainly cancelling out her
desire through her admission that she is
"longing" for someone. Longing isn't some
harmless romantic emotion, it is one of
the most damaging blocks for love energy
Longing is not an "attractive" energy.
It contains a strong energy of desire as
well as a strong energy of fear. When we
long for someone, it isn't a pure energy
of "ask" but one of doubt. And if you
have ever experienced longing you'll
know it feels so terrible. There is nothing
wrong with wanting something -- that's a
positive feeling. But in contrast, wanting
something so much and harbouring a fear
or doubt that you will never ever get it,
well hey, that sucks. So here the Universe
aligns itself with the "like attracts like" law
and really it's a self fulfilling prophesy. You
just keep longing!
Some of you may be wanting to attract
a great love into your life and perhaps you
recognise that you are mixing your energies,
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