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When we start to trust
people and life itself,
we open ourselves to
its full potential, says Dr
Every day we live is an act of trust.
We get up each morning, trusting
that we will return to our beds that
night. There are no guarantees.
I don't think it would be an exaggeration
to say that having trust and living by that
code is one of the most valuable life skills.
Every day, I find myself telling people how
important trust is and that it comes in many
Trust in God
I'm not religious any longer, but still feel
connected to a higher spirit and believe that
we're all part of the entire universe and all
living things. So, praying is still something I
do on a daily basis. It consists of affirming,
blessings and thankfulness. Whether you're
a Christian, Buddhist, Jewish or a New Ager,
faith is involved, and faith is akin to trust.
I believe in the goodness of life. That's
what I primarily put my faith in. Rather than
ask for intercession and spiritual help, I
prefer to let go and trust in the outcome,
whether I like what transpires or not.
That's something I could never do a few
years ago, but part of my journey with trust
has been about letting go of control. Surely
that's the ultimate testament to trust, when
we can relinquish the need to hold tight to
the reins of our lives, and simply do our best
with no assurance of success. That doesn't
mean we should be passive and not strive
for things, but praying with faith for what
we want without the need to have it arrive
is the key. That might sound contradictory
and indeed it is. That's what makes it so
tricky. Yet it is the formula for true success.
Trust in Self
Without trust in oneself, many, many
doors will forever be closed in life. Lack
of self belief leads to limitation thinking,
poverty consciousness and a restricted life
experience. If we live behind labels that
limit us, let negative thinking take over our
minds and hand our power over to other
people, addictions or unhealthy behaviours,
we can't expect to make progress in any of
the major areas of life. A friend once said
finish line, whereas she always sees the
hurdles along the way, thus rendering her
reluctant to even begin.
Self belief doesn't mean arrogance,
boasting or vanity, in fact, the opposite.
It's actually more about self acceptance,
recognising the need for continual growth
but also the perfection of imperfection, as in
"I'm already perfect just as I am." That level
of self trust is what true empowerment is all
about because it liberates us from self doubt,
self criticism and self destructiveness.
Many addictions stem from self loathing
and when we're sure we're going to let
ourselves down, we invariably do and we
then fail everyone around us, too. It's a
negative spiral downwards.
What's required for self trust is, initially,
honesty at every level. We need to know
ourselves thoroughly, especially the less
attractive parts, without condemnation.
Self awareness is the foundation of trust
because we can't trust what we don't know.
Beyond knowing, there's also the trust in
our ability -- "I can do it" should be every
person's catchcry, and if I can't, I'll find out
how or ask for help -- but it will be done.
Determination, tenacity, assurance -- these
are the offspring of trust.
Trust in Magic
It's important to make room in our lives
for magic. Again, it requires trust and a
relinquishing of control. While we hold
tight to every aspect of our lives, there
can never be any joyful surprises. Control
comes from fear. We fear that if we let go,
our lives will descend into chaos, but the
opposite is true. Glorious disorder might
ensue, but never chaos.
Chaos in life is caused by chaotic
thinking, misconceptions, procrastination
and the like. With clarity and trust, we can
truly go with the flow of life, confident that
we are on the right path and the journey will
always take us safely home. It's a beautiful,
free way to live, rather than in the bondage
of fear, stress and anxiety.
Why don't we trust in magic? How can
we if we've never looked for it or allowed
ourselves to see it? We hear a lot these days
about the laws of attraction. Well, certainly
to engage that energy, we need absolute
faith. What we put out is what comes back.
It's a simple principle, similar to saying
affirmations. It's absolutely useless without
belief. That's why a lot of people give up
after a period of trying these techniques.
There has to be emotional engagement or
they won't work. Magic is all around us --
spiritual protection, guardian angels and
guides, omens and signs, but we need to
stay open to these possibilities in order to
benefit from them.
Belief differs from trust insofar as the
former is more definite. A friend once put
it most succinctly -- she said that trust is
hoping, belief is knowing.
Some people buy lottery tickets for 40
years without ever really believing they're
going to win. What's the point of that?
They may as well give the money directly
Quietly to believe without pushing or
desperation is the way to achieve goals and
dreams. What is trust after all but the ability
to hold onto a truth without any evidence
whatsoever. When something is tangible
and proven, there's no need for trust.
Yet, with deep seated belief, everything
is possible. Okay, I couldn't just decide
tomorrow I'm going to become a nuclear
physicist but then again, I have no desire to.
But the things I do desire, I'm prepared to
wait a lifetime for.
Somewhere out in the universe is every
dream anyone ever dreamed, every wish
fulfilled and every prayer answered. For
these to come into our concrete reality, we
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