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person is rarely lonely.
❤ Maintain your self confidence.
❤ Happiness is a condition, not a goal.
Christmas can be one of the loneliest
times in the year as it brings out all our
expectations of happiness and yet our
deepest insecurities. Whatever we think
we lack becomes focused and we have
more time on our hands over the
holidays to dwell on dark thoughts and
self pity. Yet it can be a lovely time, full of
love and joy. If you find yourself alone
and you don't have family to spend the
day with, why not volunteer at a shelter
or welfare centre, serving meals to the
homeless, for example? Do you have a
skill or talent? Then take it to your local
hospital and cheer up those stuck in a
sick bed. It's the old adage of helping
those less fortunate than ourselves.
When you are feeling alone, especially
after a break-up, you need time to grieve
and honour the process of healing. So, take
your time, get to know yourself again, make
plans and then go out again when you're
Be proud to be single. Enjoy the time
in between relationships or if you haven't
had a serious partner yet. Whether single
or not, you will sometimes feel lonely. Let
this be okay and don't let it be a problem.
Make things happen and renew your
enthusiasm for life.
I find that there are themes in
problems as there are in other areas of
life. In this new century and a new
millenium, relationships are changing,
transforming, in fact, and they will never
again be the way they were in our parents'
and grandparents' day. Will we lose a lot?
Yes, but there will be benefits, hopefully
more equality between the sexes, more
personal responsibility for happiness and
much, much more honesty. These themes
will keep recurring.
Honour the child that still resides in
each of us. By all means be 'grown-up'
in your duties and responsibilities but
don't get weighed down by life's de-
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mands. Keep it light, laugh, find humour
in even serious things and when the days
are dark, the more vigilant we must be
in finding the light.
Here are some ways of looking at
what joy is:
Joy is an energy so we need to
exercise it in the same way as we exercise
our brains and bodies. If you can't feel
your inner joy, it doesn't mean you don't
have any; it just means you haven't learnt
to access it -- a familiar notion in the
computer age. Access it in the same way
as you would data from your PC -- go into
the system and retrieve what you know
is there. Sit in silence, feel your inner
peace, laugh, dance, play with children
and animals -- they will show you by
example -- walk near the ocean, do simple
things that are fun like playing games
and telling jokes, talking with friends
and doing some gardening.
There are no excuses because the
only person you'll be cheating is yourself
if you don't try. What are some common
blocks? The most common one is fear.
We are afraid to be wrong, to risk and
fail, to reach out and find nothing there.
Letting go of fear is the first step to
rediscovering your inner child. Other
things that need elimination are control,
self doubt and cynicism.
We can't get happiness from any-
where other than from within ourselves.
Imagine a deep spring of joy inside you
gusher? It's your choice. No, don't tell
me about your horrible father or your
first romance that disillusioned you, your
lack of money or the fact that your best
friend died. Those things have nothing
to do with joy or the lack of it. They
only make us unhappy in the short term.
It is the nature of life to continue, to
At any point in your life, no matter
what experiences you've been through,
you can find and feel that inner
'Imagine a deep spring of joy inside you -- do you want a
dry well, a trickle or a gusher?'
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