Home' Nova National : NOVA NATIONAL MAY 12 Contents wearing to cover up our hurts from our
previous breakups has fallen away. Seeing
the changes, their energy falls as they
become fearful about this and have no
idea what to do. They start to distance
themselves as they feel your fear and
before you know it, another love is lost
and you don't know how it's happened.
When you're aware of your repeated
patterns in your love life and other
relationships, you have taken the first
step to healing your past. Really look
at yourself and find the negative belief
systems you are sending out to the
universe, along with the fearful emotions
attached to them.
Surrendering your heart
Rarely in our lifetimes do we come
across other people with whom we feel an
amazing energetic connection, someone
you feel you already know and trust
completely. So, when that opportunity
comes along, and in your past you have
suffered the hurts and heart scars without
healing them, you will start to reject the
new love for fear it will hurt you as you
have been hurt before. Releasing and
accepting these experiences is part of
your soul contract. It can also be difficult
to know if this person is a future love or
an amazing connection far greater than
that, a love so complete and unconditional
there is no need for physical interaction.
To look into someone's eyes and
know you have seen them before is
Love is an amazing energy. It is
something that is felt through
emotions and exists in everything
and is everywhere around us.
Love is the food for the soul. It is the
most important ingredient to life itself,
and without it we can't survive. Our
children are drawn towards love, they thrive
on it and need love to grow. There is no
one aspect to our lives that doesn't involve
love, even in the darkest of experiences.
You can find love in abundance if you
choose to open your heart and feel it.
The truth is that we, as children,
experience love within the environment
that surrounds us. This experience
● our response to the world around us
● our actions and behaviours
● our emotions our thoughts
● our relationships with friends, family and
Many have experienced a lack of love
from a young age from parents who did
not show their love for their children or
themselves for that matter. Be assured
that you, too, have inherited this force
from the environment from which they
came which, in turn, was inherited from
their parents, and so on.
This lack of love we have inherited
has, in many ways, conditioned us to re-
create these same experiences in our
relationships. It is not until we recognise
these repeated cycles that we realise that
something is not right, or is missing in our
lives which is yet to be addressed. And if
we do not find the courage to look within
and resolve this, we will find ourselves
repeating the same experience over and
over again until we make the decision
to change our beliefs and break the cycle.
The fear of losing someone
The fear of loss of love is overwhelming,
especially if you are not consciously
aware of the inherited influences that
cause the loss in the first place. If we
clearly knew what the problem was we
could fix it, right? Well, it may be easier
said than done, since we are more likely
to blame the other person than take
responsibility for what we have created
for ourselves unintentionally, or perhaps,
in some cases, intentionally.
When you have felt suppression and
dominance in a relationship, your ability
to trust has gone, and your ability to feel
that others will treat you with respect
and equality is seriously diminished.
It becomes harder to believe there is
anyone out there who can really love and
accept you for who you are. You hide
your authenticity, instead presenting to
the world what you think others will
accept. You lose your voice and can even
create behaviours that will stop others
from getting to know the real you.
In our minds, we create the same
scenarios and feel the same painful
emotions we felt in our previous
relationships. The next unsuspecting new
love in our life has no idea what they are
up against, until the mask we have been
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Love comes when we open our
hearts and act from truth, says life
coach Catherine May Smith.
an amazing experience. To enter into
someone's presence and feel that warmth
and safety is a lovely, comforting feeling.
But is this what you need, or is it what
your heart desires? If it's a needy energy,
then you will drain the other person's
energy and they will find it hard to be in
Being open to receive love
If you have been asking for more love
in your life free of fear and knowing this
is what your heart desires, then you can
be assured the energy will be a positive
exchange and an easy interaction. On
the other hand, if you can be honest and
aware of yourself and realise that you're
projecting out into the universe a needy
energy, then now is the time to seek help
and guidance to heal this before losing
another love. There are many powerful
healing modalities that can help you to
locate the low beliefs and fears blocking
you from having a beautiful, harmonious
relationship full of unconditional love.
We all deserve unconditional love. If you
have been asking for love, you can be
assured the universe will bring it to you.
But you must be open in your heart, mind
and body to receive it with gratitude.
What love is and what it isn't
Love is kind and caring. It knows how to
adjust to the needs and desires of others
without being unkind to one self.
Love is happy for others' successes.
It is never jealous or envious. If you feel
these emotions, you can be certain you
are lacking love for yourself and others.
Love is empowering and peaceful. It
is not boastful or proud. If you find your-
self boasting or acting with pride it may
mean the need to place yourself and
some others above all else, rather than for
everyone's highest good.
Love is considerate and respectful. It
is never selfish or rude. It is not demand-
ing of its own way and if it is, then nothing
good will come from this.
Love is very patient. If you lack
patience your behaviour is being impelled
by your internal fears. A strong fear
associated with impatience is a deep
seated feeling of lacking love in your life.
Love is tolerant and accepting. It is not
irritable, begrudging or critical of others
whom you perceive acted wrongfully.
Neither is it happy about injustice, but
rejoices whenever truth wins out.
Unconditional love means when you
love someone you will be loyal to them
no matter what the cost. You will always
believe in them, see the best in them and
stand by their side.
All in Perfection.
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