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There’s a lot to appreciate in everyone’s life even when
things are tough, suggests Dr Charmaine Saunders.
e a l l have preferenc es when
it come s to our emotions .
Who wouldn’t rather be
happy than sad, positive
than depressed, calm than anxious? But I
learned a few years ago that there’s no
differenc e, in fact, bet ween various
emotions. It’s all just energy and the
su rest way to hold onto neg ative feelings
is to judge them, a na lyse them or try to
pretend they’re not happening. We c an’t
be cheerful all the time – that’s a plain
fact of life – but we can be happy. Even in
the darkest hour, we can find the peaceful
sanctuary that lies within each of us.
rejection is something we all find
very difficult to deal with. I don’t suppose
anyone likes it much. But if an issue
has particular resonance for you, it will
a lways ke ep coming up in your life.
To follow your dreams, you must
c onstantly be challenging one self, taking
c reative risks a nd ma king yourself
v ulnerable. Take hea rt, you’re not alone.
We’re a ll in that same boat.
It’s picking yourself up and dusting
yourself off and sta rting again that
Subc onsciously, we set tests up for
ourselve s, especially in area s that we know
are our weakest. What we fear, we will
a lways see. If you’re c on stantly worried
about money, you will eventually have
a financial crisis to deal with; if you’re afraid
of rejection a nd loneliness, you’l l e xperience
relationship breakdown, a nd if you’re a fraid
of tangible things such as a particular insect
or object, you will see nothing else. So, the
important thing is to c onquer your fear
before it cripples your life.
When a client says to me that they
want to overcome a certain issue or
problem, I always warn them that, for a
while, it will get worse a s their negative
“One of the most tragic things about human nature is that
all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some
magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying
the roses outside the window.”
— Dale Carnegie
Farewell Dr Charmaine Saunders
Many of you will know Dr Charmaine Saunders from her work
with NOVA over the past 10 years as a relationships columnist
and feature writer. It is with a heavy heart that we pass on the
news of her sudden death last month. It came as a great shock to
her many friends and loved ones who had seen her struggle with
cancer in recent years but never losing her a ma zing gift of seeing
the rosy side of life. Even during her most recent hospitalisation
after a serious fall, Charmaine’s zest for life was inspirational, as she wrote just last month
in ‘A Journey Shared ’. r ather than dwelling on her own problems, Charmaine, a doctor of
psycholog y, s aw that her experienc e c ould help others in their struggles and was determined
to write this piece even as she was bedridden. If you missed the story and would like to read
it, you’ll find it in our online Articles archive at ww w.novamagazine.com.au.
As well as her work in NOVA, Charmaine was widely known and highly respected in
Perth for her counselling work and talks and regular appearances on radio and TV.
As our farewell, we offer you once again a feature she wrote for us last year called ‘Being
Happy’. Charma ine wouldn’t want it a ny other way.
— Margaret Evans
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